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In episode five, I interview my very favorite human being of all the human beings there are alive on the planet. Generally, when I’m preparing to record a podcast there are some logistic questions. Am I going to travel to where they live? [I’ve done that… I flew to New York recently to interview Andrew Horn and Mickey Agarwal, I drove to Southen California for Daniel Schmachtenberger]. Can they come to me? Or are we going to record using zoom? This was the one interview when none of those questions were necessary. I was interviewing the extraordinary wonderful human being who sleeps on the other side of my bed.
Have you ever seen those shorter videos on social media where very handicapped people learn to do ordinary things? You can watch a video for five minutes of someone brushing their teeth, making it downstairs, making breakfast and even going out to buy groceries. All of this is completely gripping and fascinating when the subject of the video has no arms and legs. Then it is heroic! Extraordinary! A triumph of human nature. I never thought that I would be able to love: fully and deeply and without restraint in this lifetime. There was too much conditioning from my family weighing me down. But seventeen years ago, I met someone who had the same aspiration: to learn to love, despite the odds. We agreed to enter into an experiment together: to practice love. Here is our report.
11:18 — An experiment in love / Committing to something deeper
20:22 — Exposed! / Radical honesty
27:38 — Starting over every day / A fresh trembling attempt at allowing love to take over
35:00 — Universal love, polyamory, or monogamy? / Commitment as a portal into freedom
46:36 — Committing to love itself
53:40 — Greatest challenge of relationship / the demons we face in achieving deeper love
I so much love you both!!! And some envy also! For various reasons.
Thank you for sharing such a sweet vulnerability!
I can relate with the deep experiences of both of you.
As an astrologer I would say that the commitment level and possibility, in each lifetime, is related to our animic choice, which is shown in our chart.
And as a single who has had four long relationships, I think I have decided, about ten years ago, that I will be in the “right” relationship about in three hundred years! For now, I have given up and am working on the relationship with myself.
Hugs and kisses to both!
Dear Arjuna dear Chameli,
following you for some years I am deeply touched by your sharing and the path you both are walking.
I so often heard Chameli speak about the beginnings of your relationship and I love the way you started
putting it all on the table, opening the boxes of fear that he/she will leave when you say how you react in this or that situation.
I love this radical openness!
Thank you, Arjuna, for the inquiry questions at the end. I will work with them.
Some are familiar, the last ones are new – and i haven’t worked with them for some time – so I’m very curious.
Being on the path of healing my feminine wounds I so often heard ‘Your wounds are so deep that your Beloved cannot find you yet.’
I can feel that this is not true – we are all wounded, deeply. It rather feels like I am avoiding something and I am so curious to find out.
The inquiry will reveal something, I am quite sure.
I am in deep gratitude for both of you for being such a role model for a role model of relationship
that opens the door to love, love, love to flow. Thank you so much.
Much love to you!
Gratitude for sharing.
I am single after a ten year marriage and a couple brief relationships after. I also have had very little example of how to love and be loved and had attracted abusive situations to myself. I am now exploring my own contribution to this dynamic, learning self love and healthy boundaries. What you have is ultimate goal! I will say, while I have not experienced this kind of love with a partner, I do have this free kind of love toward my children. And while I hope I do have the opportunity to explore this dynamic with a partner, I can die a fulfilled woman knowing I was able to give that to them and experience it through them in return. ♡